被討厭的勇氣-做自己就好|The Courage to be Hated–Just Be Yourself

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今天想跟大家稍微聊聊關於「做自己」的話題!
我從大一開始經營C’est Agnes以來(國高中時期經營的是繪圖的blog),
(Well, 正確來說,C’est Agnes應該誕生於2016春天才對啦(笑)
2013~2015這段期間部落格名稱是Agnes-My Dear Diary)
一直到現在開始著手拍YouTube影片,
一路上遇到很多挫折,當然也從中學習、進步了很多,
而其中一個我正努力學習的就是「被討厭的勇氣」。

Today I want to talk about “Being Yourself” with you guys.
Since I started running C’est Agnes when I was a freshman,
(Well, technically C’est Agnes was created in 2016.
During 2013~2015, the name of this blog was Agnes-My Dear Diary)
I’ve encountered numerous difficulties, while I also have learned a lot from them.
One of the difficulties I am facing now is “the Courage to be Hated.”

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在這個科技發達、言論自由的年代,大家都能隨心所欲地表達自己的想法。
然而,在這之中很多無形的傷害也一併出現了。
舉例來說好了,YouTube上的dislike按鍵是我非常不喜歡的功能,因此我從未使用過它。
為什麼呢?因為所有人都可以因為自己的一點點不喜歡而否定一個人辛苦完成的作品。
我認為要表達不認同當然是可以的,但前提是必須讓所有人看到是「誰」按了不喜歡,
以及強制留言「為什麼」不喜歡。
否則,也許只是我的長相或風格不是某些人喜歡的等等,
(甚至有些人就只是「沒理由的討厭你」)
創作者就必須承受那一切無形的壓力,甚至還會有惡意傷害的留言出現,
讓人很感嘆,難道現在的人都不懂得基本的禮貌與尊重了嗎?
(有趣的是,那些人通常都沒有大頭貼耶(笑)
大概是因為把自己藏在螢幕下所以比較有勇氣說出自以為正義的言論吧?)

Living in a world, which you are provided with your freedom of speech,
everyone can share their ideas whenever they want.
However, a lot of people may get hurt by the haters.
For instance, I really hate the DISLIKE button on YouTube.
Why? Coz anyone can make you think your work sucks.
I’m not saying people can’t express their opinions,
I’m saying that we should be able to see “WHO” exactly dislikes the video,
and they have to be forced to “LEAVE A COMMENT to EXPLAIN WHY”
Sometimes there are even despiteful comments…
There’s no reason that creators should bear the strain.
I am wondering whether people nowadays still know what manners and respect are?!

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不過,我也知道想要繼續開心的寫部落格,當所謂的YouTuber,
(其實我到現在仍不確定自己到底算不算所謂的Blogger/YouTuber?)
這些問題是我早晚都得面對的。
一開始遇到刻意刁難或是很無禮的留言,多少都會感到憤怒與難過,
每一次我都會調適自己,我不可能讓世界上所有的人都喜歡我,
但我也不能因此忘記還有很多人非常喜歡我的這個事實。
再者,我生氣了不就落入那些人的圈套了嗎?
即使他們再怎麼想傷害我,我的日子一樣這麼開心的過呀!
我一樣有把我當公主疼的家人、男友、甚至是男友的家人!
也有別人可能一輩子都找不到的八年的知心好友
我一樣開心地拍照、購物、享受生活、學習多種語言、充實自己等等的啊!
久而久之,我也就看開了?!你真的討厭我的話~good, go ahead!(很好啊,就去吧!)
我不是完人,可是我擁有被討厭的勇氣
像是我的YouTube每次發影片,每次都會有一個人dislike我的影片!
(有一次才剛上傳不到5分鐘就按了)
一開始真的滿難適應的,但Leon跟我說,換個方向想他這樣也算你的忠實粉絲啦
想想也是,真是辛苦他了!這麼不喜歡我還要來看我的影片(大笑)

But I know that if I want to maintain this blog and keep making videos,
this is what I would face sooner or later.
At first, it was hard for me to deal with the mean comments and dislikes.
Nonetheless, I always tell myself that I cannot make everyone in this world likes me,
but the fact I cannot forget is that there are still plenty of people who love me and support me.
No matter how hard the haters try to hurt me, my life is still so wonderful.
My parents, boyfriend, and even his parents all treat me like a princess!
I also have a perfect friend for 8 more years!
I’m still happily taking photos, shopping, learning several languages, and living my glorious life!
Whenever I upload a new video, there will certainly be someone click the dislike button right away!
But my boyfriend said, well, on the other hand, he/she is also a big fan of you!
Ha ha, indeed?! I’m not perfect, but I have the courage to be hated!

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我相信即使大家不寫部落格或是拍YouTube影片,
生活中仍有可能遇到這樣的事情。
所以呀~大家也要懂得調適好自己的心情唷!
當被討厭的時候,首先先檢視自己是不是真的有做錯,
假如沒有的話,那也許就是你們八字不合吧(笑)
有些人也許是嫉妒你,有些人可能純粹看你不順眼,又或者吃飽太閒啦?
但只要自己知道自己不斷努力著、進步著,
自己知道自己的目標是什麼,知道自己為什麼而活,這樣就夠了!
回頭看看後方,還有這麼多人愛著你、支持著你喔!
世界上永遠都會有討厭你的人,但換個方面想,有時候他們也是讓你變得更好的動力唷!
我是Agnes,別人再怎麼不喜歡我,我依舊是Agnes!
一起加油,好嗎☺️?

I believe even though you may not write a blog or make YouTube videos,
it’s still likely that you may encounter the same difficulty.
Therefore, it’s important for you to change your thoughts!
Whenever someone hates you, check out if you have done something wrong.
If not, then just let it go!
He/She may just envy you, or simply doesn’t like you, or have nothing meaningful to do.
Only if you know you’re always trying to do your best, that’s enough!
A lot of people are standing on your side, supporting you and loving you.
I am Agnes, even though others hate me, I am still Agnes.
So, let’s change our thoughts together, and become better together!

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Bag: Saint Laurent

Sunglasses: Gentle Monster (the dreamer)

Necklace: Sophia 蘇菲亞

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這次的色調我自己好喜歡
自己慢慢摸索,每一次的後製調色都會學習到新的東西,
希望之後可以找到我最喜歡的色調,調出固定的風格!

最後送上你們我最愛的抹茶一杯

I do love the tone of this series of pictures!
Every time I edit the photos, I learn something new!
Hopefully I can find my favorite tone in the future!

At last, here comes my favorite drink– Matcha!

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  1. 很喜歡你的這篇文章,最近”被討厭的勇氣”這本書真的很有名~
    兩本幾乎都看了2~3次了!
    因為有時候看完不是代表真的吸收了,我常常看就變成一種提醒也能為自己帶來能量!
    反正不管我們怎麼做,一定會有討厭自己的人,但也一定會有欣賞你的人!

    一起加油>< 超級喜歡你♥

  2. 看完了,我也越來越喜歡你了 ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
    謝謝你讓我又更了解了一些道理~
    我訂閱你的youtube囉♥希望每次受到挫折的你都可以更有自信的度過!

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